Advice from Melissa: Should I worry about my husbands female FB friends?
My husband has a part-time job at night as a bartender. He is always accepting friend requests from patrons, often who are ladies. While I am secure and confident in who I am and the relationship that we have, it irritates me to no end seeing these women comment flirty, suggestive messages on his posts or the fact that he has inside jokes with them from the bar. I am not the jealous type, but it drives me insane. Do you think having a joint Facebook account would lessen these types of messages?
The Bartender’s Wife
Nothing says “I don’t trust you” as much as a joint Facebook account. When I look at couples who have them, the first thing I assume is one of them can’t be trusted to have their own account and shenanigans must have occurred. With that said, try talking to your husband and letting him know how these messages make you feel. He doesn’t have to be friends with everyone who throws a dollar in his tip jar. You will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out the root of every message, and often we try to mark our territory and pee on what is ours by making a comment ourselves or passive aggressively liking everything he posts. It will drive you out of your mind. So before you find yourself hanging out in the bar parking lot at night and killing your phone battery by refreshing his Facebook feed every four seconds, talk to him. He chose you to be his wife for a reason.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.