Dear Melissa,
My boyfriend’s family has a Labor Day party every year, and I recently found out that this year his ex is planning to come. He did not invite her, but she is very close friends with his sister, and she invited her even though he asked her not to. This girl is still obsessed with him and will do anything to get back in his life. In the past, she came around and still tried playing the girlfriend role (getting him drinks, fixing him a plate of food, laughing at all his jokes, etc.) He doesn’t encourage her behavior, but it is really under my skin. What do I do?
Party Foul
Dear Party Girl,
You could always try to avoid her, but that won’t make the problem go away. Stand up and tell her how you feel. Make sure your guy makes it clear to her that he is with you now. You shouldn’t feel threatened! He chose you; she is just having a hard time dealing with that and it is her problem, not yours. His sister is absolutely breaking girl code; maybe he should have a talk with her too!
Good luck!
Melissa



