There is always a level of positivity I try to maintain when writing this column.
It’s no secret that planning any type of event brings along its own stress, and weddings are no exception, but I always try to put my best foot forward in this column.
Don’t worry, this isn’t going to get depressing, I promise. It’s just that the day I have dreaded most is staring me in the face: dress shopping. Don’t get me wrong, years of watching “Say Yes to the Dress” have prepared me to go into this appointment knowing what style of dress I want to try, the necklines that would work and so forth.
The only thing standing in my way is me, and I bring this up to let anyone else feeling this way that you’re not alone.
I still have 303 days before I walk down the aisle, which, admittedly, is a very long time. A lot can change about a person in 300 days. However, the norm is to order the dress nine months before the wedding, which puts me at the end of August for an ordering date.
And everyone around me is extremely excited about this endeavor. The glamour of getting everyone together to look at beautiful dresses is something I am also excited for! This is not to make it seem like I don’t want to go shopping at all, because that is simply not the case.
My anxiety is boiling over for fear of not liking how I look in anything, which is scarier than possibly not finding a dress altogether.
Realistically, I know the way I look during my appointment is NOT going to be the way I look on my wedding day; I just don’t want to get too much in my head and derail my appointment (which I have seen happen all too often on “Say Yes to the Dress,” I might add).
In the back of my mind, I cannot wait for my appointment. Most of my bridesmaids are coming in, as well as my mother and future mother-in-law, and being able to spend the day with such a fabulous group of women shopping is awesome. And the years of creating Pinterest boards full of dresses is finally paying off (I hope), so what’s not to be excited about?
I know these issues are not unique to me, and I am sure there are other brides who have either struggled with this or are struggling with it. If that’s the case, I stand with you, and I totally get it. Also, if you have any tips or tricks to going dress shopping, let me know, because I could use the advice!
Luckily, I still have just over two weeks until my appointment, which gives me time to get my anxieties out and continue to try to keep up a regular exercise schedule.
Editor’s note: Brigid Edmunds is a reporter and paginator for the Times Leader and Weekender. When she’s not working, she’s busy planning her upcoming nuptials to fiance Mikey Lawrence.
If you’re a bride-to-be, recently got married or a vendor and would like to offer advice for brides, email her at [email protected]
Her column, The Prenuptial Project, will run twice a month in Weekender.