Girl Talk: Couples should learn to part like adults, leave gossip out of it
When an adult couple breaks up, it is expected that at that point in their lives that they would peacefully go their separate ways. Instead, it seems the older we get, the more catty things seem to become. When did we stop being grown-ups?
In the world of social media and over-sharing every thought and emotion that we have, it seems break-ups and fights, which were once a private matter between two people, have now become the public’s business.
Whether it is a vague Facebook post, a passive aggressive comment, a song shared on your timeline or a meme that you know will make its way back to the intended party, break-ups are anything but a private matter in today’s society. When it goes beyond social media and out into the real world, that is when things get very messy.
A friend recently stopped seeing a guy that she was casually dating. To her, it was a guy who, like a shoe, she was just trying on for size. Once she discovered that he didn’t fit, she told him that they were better off as friends.
He didn’t take the split well, and his laces untied. He told anyone and everyone who would listen that she was a terrible person who broke his heart and shattered all of his future plans for a wife, children and a happily-ever-after. In reality, she was a girl he went on three dates with who just wasn’t feeling it.
The slander reached levels of nastiness that I haven’t seen since high school. Why are we entering into adult relationships without having an exit plan that will maintain a little bit of dignity?
It backfired. Word of the slander spread faster than the words he was saying. To everyone that mattered, the relationship that wasn’t did not warrant such an epic response. People who know her knew she couldn’t and wouldn’t do the things he was claiming. When he tried hitting on the next girl at the bar, she already knew how he reacted after the last split and told him that she is not interested in being the next topic of barroom and Facebook conversation.
Moral of the story? When you break-up, post some YouTube videos and move on. Gossip never gets you anywhere, and it ends up being pie on your own face. Think of how you would feel if you were at the receiving end of the gossip. When it comes to the dating world, lets just be grown-ups.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live and WBRE.