Advice from Melissa: Keeping dating casual before wading into the pool
I started dating a new guy. We’ve been out four times and always had fun. The thing is that we are just dating casually. I only recently put my feet back in the dating pool and I am not ready to get my hair wet. I’ve been up front with my intentions. However, he seems to be more serious than I am. I like going out with him and would like to continue, but I don’t want to dive into the deep end yet. How do I make sure he’s on the same page without making things awkward?
Taking things casually.
There is nothing wrong with playing the field, or taking laps around the pool. It sounds like you have done your part in being honest with what you are looking for right now. You have been out multiple times, so he must be ok with your intentions. It is possible that he is more serious than you are. But that doesn’t mean it still can’t work at your pace. You can always remind him where you are without making it awkward. Start by telling him how you enjoy going out together and would like to continue doing so, but at your own pace without getting serious yet. If he is into you, then he will respect your wishes. If he gets angry or starts being pushy, then it is better to know sooner rather than later. Good luck to you, and remember to only take off those swimmies when you’re ready.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.