Walking up to a stranger, introducing yourself, and beginning a conversation is not exactly the easiest thing to do. In fact, for some it can be terrifying. The question I’ve often asked myself: how does one navigate the pick-up line jungle, sounding funny and original, leaving the creep and clichés at home?
There are no easy answers.
The art of crafting a truly original line isn’t as easy as it seems… nor is it advisable. If you’re a guy trying to meet a girl, the pressure is on to say something memorable, funny, or witty. But women don’t always want to be bothered with a pick-up line, no matter how clever.
“Pick-up lines are the worst,” says Dominique Kozuch, 23. “If you have to come up with a formula to try to talk with someone, that’s not genuine. If someone used one on me, I would not be interested.”
This puts men in a paradoxical situation: say something interesting and run the risk of looking like an idiot, or don’t say anything and miss an opportunity.
I have been in this situation more than once.
Oftentimes, rather than using a pick-up line, I like to identify a particular trait – something that makes a person original – and focus on that. Recently, while enjoying a book and some tea at a local coffee shop, I noticed a girl who was, quite honestly, breathtaking. She was a brunette, wearing thick glasses, and she had a smile worth dying for.
I resolved to talk to her.
Although her friends were sitting nearby, she was alone, and I couldn’t decide if or how I should approach her. I knew a pick-up line wasn’t the way to go – I began to fret.
After a few moments passed, I decided. Rather than put a performance on in front of her, her friends, and everyone else who was sitting nearby, I would use the only superpower I have: my writing ability… more specifically, I would leave a note. Although this sounds lame, there is a certain kind of quiet charm – even romance – about the note. If anything, it was preferable to write a short letter than be laughed and ridiculed out of the coffee shop had I tried the direct approach.
I ripped out a piece of paper from my notebook and scribbled down a few short lines. I folded up the note, gathered my things and began walking toward her.
“Excuse me,” I said.
She lifted her head and looked at me, smiling.
“This is for you,” I said, handing her the note.
Then, her friends and every person at every surrounding table, looked up at me. I knew what this meant: I was now on stage, giving a performance as everyone watched, waiting to see what I would do next.
I turned and headed out the door.
To date, I haven’t heard from my mystery girl, as she could have interrupted my gesture in many ways. The important thing is that I read the situation and made a judgment call. Leaving a note may not have been the best move, but it wasn’t the worst, either. Bottom line: when it comes to pick-up lines, avoid the performance. If you’re a guy, women will appreciate it if you make an honest attempt – via note or otherwise – so leave the clichés at home.