Advice from Melissa: I’m affectionate and my boyfriend won’t show me love
I am in a relationship with someone who is not outwardly affectionate. This goes beyond excessive PDAs to the point where he wont even hold my hand or show any type of physical affection unless we are in private. I am a very affectionate person, and the constant rejection of my advances has me feeling really rejected. How do I fix this?
Everyone is different. It is as simple as that. You can’t change a person, and if you knew going into this that he just isn’t that outwardly affectionate in public, you may need to evaluate the level of importance that holds for you in a relationship. If you have tried talking to him and it is just not something he is comfortable with, you need to respect that or find someone more like you. He also may not even realize he is rejecting your advances; maybe he is hot and holding your hand just makes him clammy. Maybe he just doesn’t like to be touched. Communicate!!! You will find an answer or find someone more open to your methods of showing love.
Girl Talk began in 2012 as a telltale horror story of the city’s most epic dating disasters and has evolved into a column about love, life experiences and growing up. Melissa also has a weekly Girl Talk TV segment on PA Live, WBRE, and a radio segment every Wednesday on 98.5 KRZ.