Let’s get real:

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First Posted: 11/10/2014

Dear Melissa,

I have been dating this guy I met through online dating for about 3 weeks now. He is nice and all but I really see us more as friends than anything else. Recently, we went out for drinks and I met his brother. I hit it off with him instantly and am now finding myself making up reasons to talk to him. I am totally crushing. The guy I originally was dating is really into me and I know that I couldn’t date his brother without hurting him. What do I do?

-Family Tied

Dear Tied Up,

Well that’s a pickle of a situation you are in. First, I would say that you need to end things with brother #1. It is not fair to him if you keep tagging along with him if you are not interested and are not feeling anything. It may hurt him, but in the long run, it’s the best solution for both parties. As far as the brother is concerned, I would say honesty is the best policy. Let brother #1 know that you guys are just friends and that you hit it off with brother #2. He will react in one of two possible ways. He will be hurt and tell you to buzz off and likely be very bitter about it, or he might give you his blessing and try setting you up with is brother. If you aren’t feeling into the relationship, you are likely giving off that vibe already and maybe he already knows. Good Luck!